What you should know about a massage visit

Sensual massages are a trend that is especially popular with people who are looking for tingling relaxation but are not interested in classic sex offers. Usually you are in a passive role during a massage — leaning back and enjoying is the motto.

To make a massage visit a real pleasure, especially for newcomers, here are a few tips and things you should know:

Process

In many places you should or must make an appointment beforehand. 2–3 hours in advance is often enough, sometimes it can be even shorter. Important: don't stand up your masseuse! When you arrive at your desired address, you will usually be offered something to drink and asked briefly about your wishes. Some providers have clear and simple service packages, with others you can arrange the desired services modularly. Especially with the latter, it is advisable to fix the total price and duration before starting. Since credit cards are rarely accepted, take sufficient cash with you.

With respect and friendliness you usually have a better experience than treating your masseuse merely as a service provider. Respect also includes a short shower before the massage, which should be offered at every place.

After washing you lie naked on either a massage table or a bed, usually on your stomach. The rest of the process depends very much on what is on offer. Usually the back and legs are massaged with oil first. Afterwards you will be asked to turn around — depending on the massage you will start with the intimate massage or first massage the upper body and legs a little.

Practical information

• In case of doubt: „no touching" applies during massages, even if the provider appears generous. If mutual touches are possible, that either already emerges from the offer or you get clear signals.
• Giving a tip is not common in Europe, but expected in the US. If someone has offered a particularly good service and you want to use it again, a small attention never hurts.
• The keyword „Tantra" is a reason for various providers to demand more money. But music and candles alone don't make it tantra. Good Tantra offers are characterized by spirituality being in the foreground — much sensuality, little sexyness. Sexily dressed and young women and men are often an indication of less authentic Tantra.
• Specifics in the USA:
  • Prostitution is illegal in most states. Masseuses make sure (at least publicly) to not offer sexual services. Usually a provider is given a „donation" for the time spent together — not the service as such. Subtle, but understandable given the legal situation.
  • Many masseuses have no own premises and only offer hotel visits.
  • To be sure that a customer has good intentions, filling in a form with personal details is sometimes required before contact, sometimes references are even asked. This may sound strange to Europeans but is common practice.
  • Mostly payment before massage start is mandatory. You put the money in an envelope visibly on the table — you don't hand it over directly.
  • Bookings via agencies involve a brokerage fee; the girl must be paid separately. Better ask in advance or limit yourself to „independent" providers.